To all of your questions, God is the answer. This may seem boring at times. There are so many other things we can try or consider! There is meddling, controlling the situation, manipulating, or my favorite, thinking.
But in the end, if you are intent on becoming closer to God and awakening to your true glory and peace, surrendering to this truth is essential. To all your questions, God is the answer.
We are often stuck in our patterns because we've decided things are a certain way. Most of the times we've decided that they are the way they are in our heads. Have you ever considered giving it to God? Trusting that he can do something wonderfully unimaginable?
We've often don't consider inviting God in these difficult spaces of our lives. Don't believe that things are ever stuck, turn to Him. He has a way.