A lot discomfort and drama comes from the belief that we are right or need to be right. In truth, this often prevents us from connecting with others and understanding where they are coming from. More often than not, it keeps us distanced from love because we see everything in black and white, wondering "Is this pro or against what I think?"
If you are always coming from this place then it’s going to be very difficult to go about your day gracefully. Instead of letting things be, instead of loving and accepting, we are in a constant state of evaluation. We are determined to categorize everything under "Good or Bad," "Yes or no," etc.
Any given situation can be interpreted as an obstacle; any given situation can be an invitation for love and an opportunity for growth. It will depend on where your head is at on which you choose to take on.
God offers an abundance of love and peace within us all, that is what we should be defending. It is hard, but this is why we are here. Our perspective of any situation or life is not absolute.
It is very hard to appreciate and love something if we ranking or sizing something up. Whether it is a person, a situation, or an opportunity, you’ll miss its value in your life if you are always evaluating.
Sometimes, we are learning. Other times, we are teaching. This is why we must be present. This is another reason to not be defensive, you'll miss the work that needs to be done if you're busy with too many emotions.
Consuelo Reinitz, Pink Fries Paperie