Growing up in a world of Disney princess romances and movies like The Notebook isn't easy. My journey to find Mr. Right was no animated movie ending with a castle lit up by fireworks. I didn’t get to choose between two handsome men—one filthy rich, the other wildly charismatic. But, at the young age of twenty-one, I found the right man for me.
The same happened in my friendships.
Movies like The Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants or even My Girl showcase friendships that just seemed “meant to be”—best friends from the moment they met. My best friend and I? We grew up together as slight frenemies, avoided each other during our teenage years, were disappointed to find out we’d both be attending the same university, and then couldn’t live without each other by graduation.
No relationship is smooth all the time. The ups and downs of any relationship can feel like a bucking bronco in the worst of times and a serene pond in the best of times.
And there’s a reason why.
We are all seeking other people to fulfill our needs. A spouse to make me feel loved, a friend to make me feel like I belong, and a child to make me feel needed. The problem? They’re humans, and they have faults and needs of their own.
Nobody can fulfill your needs. Only God can do that.
In the words of Jorge Luis Borges:
“So plant your own gardens and decorate your own soul, instead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers.”
Except the best gardener is God.
Next time your spouse forgets your anniversary or your friend isn’t supporting you or your child isn’t behaving, remember: God is the only one that can truly fill your heart.