“Here we go,” I thought. A friend was calling. I was in dread of what she was going to say. I picked up the phone and took a breath. My body felt at ease as she began to speak. Instead of criticizing me, my friend just expressed support and understanding. No criticism. No harsh comments. She was honest, yet she was full of faith and hope for me. I was completely mystified at the offer of love and support that I was receiving. I felt entirely refreshed and rejuvenated. I felt restored.
Later that afternoon, I received a call from a friend who was having some trouble. She was anxious. When she got into the details of what had happened to her, I understood her conflictive emotions as her actions had affected the other people in a negative way. With good intentions, she had made a mistake. I realized that I had a choice: to be tempted to “correct her” or to help restore her perspective in a gentle way. I choose to offer love and hope in the same way that I had been offered earlier that morning. I was honest, but I didn’t push down on her wound and didn’t let her drown in guilt. I restored her gently back into God’s love as best I could and felt so peaceful myself after having done it.
When I feel mixed up about my actions, I remember that day. I remember how clear and peaceful I felt after each of the calls. Brothers and sisters, we always have a choice. We must learn to restore ourselves and others when either is caught in sin or ego. Our objective is to grow and we do that best when we are restored in God’s love, which gives us the courage to keep moving forward.